Love is essence of life. Though we hear and talk about it all the time, we often fail to convey this when it comes to real life situations. Many of us have at least one story of losing a relationship due to miscommunication or misunderstanding. What we do in such situations is everyone's guess. Obviously that relationship falls apart along the time and leaves a bad memory.
Can we have a different response for such breaking relationships?
Here is my take on this.
Happiness linked to Love
Every Relationship is different and it really matters what are the stakes in the relationship. Emotional stake is the topmost on the list. Relationships are driven by love & love is a powerful emotion that can make or break a lot of things in life. Even by keeping love at a low key, you can play safe but can never experience the intensity of real happiness of life. So love becomes necessary to lead a passionate life.
No Trust No Love
Trust is the life blood of Love that keeps the relationship alive. When trust is lost, love is also lost. Trust is also about believing that the other person is always acting in the best interest of the relationship. However since the perceptions and expectations are different the definition of "best interest" are also different. However when love overpowers the perceptions and logic, it moves beyond the worldly norms and limitations to win the other person with intuitive heart where logic need not be explained.
Selfishness is common
Human beings are normally selfish. Practicing high level selflessness in loving relationships is often challenged in many ways and becomes hard to justify when things go sour. Those who move above give and take conversations in loving relationships get to experience the panorama of fulfilled life. Moving from selfishness to selflessness calls for realizing the fact that real happiness lies in making others happy.
Breakups can only postpone the lessons
When break-up is chosen as option without resolving the underlying issue, by all means the experience repeats with a different individual in a different scenario till the lesson is learnt. So it makes a lot of sense to stay in the situation with courage and face it honestly till a proper mutually respectable conclusion is drawn. This is of course not applicable to life threatening and abusive situations. It also has to be realized that along with every broken relationship, something ends inside the people who are involved. If it is for good for or bad is of subjective.
Love can make you
Whatever may be the case pure Love has the power to resolve everything and make life beautiful. Nothing but love gives fulfillment that fills heart with sweetness & happiness. Being love rather than looking for love is lot more powerful. It needs practice and commitment to grow. And some tips to start with are :
Giving without having to be recognized
Acceptance without judgments
Freedom to stay natural
Putting down the guards & conditions
Minimizing the expectations
Sharing & communication
Peace without domination
Love as a river keeps flowing in our lives through the thick and thin, peaks & valleys and it is only about experiencing different forms of love without having any fixations and the need to paint the picture we want to see.